Can I overcome Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Neglect or Poor Parenting?
Yes. Abuse, childhood trauma, neglect and poor parenting leave a pattern of changes in a person’s belief systems. These can be difficult to overcome but they’re even more difficult to live with. I have a range of options to suit each person.
- The Thrive Programme – using the conscious mind (understanding) to change the subconscious belief systems
- Inner Child Therapy – using both conscious understanding and subconscious belief system changes to soothe and release deep belief system issues
- Cognitive Processing and Integration – allowing the subconscious to lead towards the belief system changes we need to make and supporting with conscious understanding
NOTE: The range of options gives you a choice. I can help you make the choice if you want me to. Some people may choose more than one option, one after the other.
Learning New Skills
Sometimes we can resolve abuse, childhood trauma, neglect and poor parenting from the conscious learning and belief change we get through brain training like The Thrive Programme. This is like taking driving lessons for your brain. Understanding how your brain works and how to use it in all situations gives a real sense of control and builds resilience.
The Thrive Programme
The Thrive Programme is a package of 6 training sessions. Each lasts up to an hour and a half. The sessions are supported by the training workbook and any other training materials needed.
The programme gives you
- understanding so things seem easy to overcome (once you understand where to put the petrol in the car and what the dashboard lights mean, it’s easy to keep enough fuel in the car) and
- teaches a set of skills which, with practice, are easy to use (once you’ve learned and practiced how to negotiate a roundabout it’s easy).
Often, when we’re training in this way, a transformation happens. This results in an effortless new way of being even if we have experienced the effects of abuse, childhood trauma, neglect or poor parenting.
Some people who have been for this type of solution will say “It was great while I kept doing the exercises but nothing really changed for good.” They feel it’s like treading water: while we’re treading water (doing the exercises) life is great and we can enjoy ourselves. If we stop, we may sink back into old habits.
This is to be expected. At first it takes a while for a new skill to become second nature to us. So to begin with it’s worth practicing the new skill until it’s second nature. Then, even when it’s second nature we still have to use it whenever it’s needed.
For some people, even with practice and persistence, the belief systems we have to change are difficult to access with this sort of training. So sometimes we need to go a little deeper to really free ourselves from the effects of abuse, childhood trauma, neglect or poor parenting.
We often need to release deep emotional learnings to create transformational change. Inner Child Therapy and Cognitive Processing and Integration are great ways to do this. Both include a level of learning new skills and brain training as required.
With transformational change, as we go through therapy old habits dissolve quickly and new behaviours occur effortlessly. Once the blockages are cleared, things flow naturally.
This natural process is called memory reconsolidation. Most of us have had what we might call a “lightbulb moment” an “Ah-ha moment” or a “penny drop moment”. Those flashes of understanding when everything falls into place, like putting a difficult piece of the jigsaw in place. That’s memory reconsolidation. Those penny drop moments happen all the time. In therapy we’re just creating the right conditions to enable those moments to happen and to make the changes we need to give you the life you want.
Inner Child Therapy
If you choose Inner Child Therapy, we’ll pinpoint key experiences from the past to get to the belief systems we need to change. We’ll provide information, support and love to soothe and resolve the feelings, transforming the unhelpful belief systems so they no longer create problems.
We’ll go through a full assessment and I’ll be able to give you an idea of how many sessions we might need. As a minimum we’ll need a further 20 hours. We may need more. This will depend on the ‘processing time’ you need and what issues you’re bringing to therapy. As an ethical therapist I’ll do everything I can to help you in as short a time as possible.
Sessions will be between 1 hour 50 minutes and 3 hours 50 minutes long depending on the stage of therapy we’re at.
We’ll also have up to 3 MOTs, up to 3, 6, and 9 months after therapy. These allow us to check in on the change and ensure everything remains positive. Sometimes, the shift we’ve been able to achieve through therapy allows us to be confident enough to face a deeper issue. Then, a few focused sessions will help us to do that. Other times it’s reassuring to check the change has been embedded and no further action is necessary.
This therapy is very thorough, sweeping through to create freedom from the discomfort of the past in all areas of life.
Cognitive Processing and Integration
If Cognitive Processing and Integration is right for you, I’ll help you relax and to follow your subconscious mind to the belief systems we need to change. I’ll help you to make those transformational changes needed as we come across them.
Each weekly session will be about 50 minutes. Generally people need between 6 and 20 sessions. We may need more. This will depend on the how easy it is for you to allow the subconscious mind to be in charge and what issues you’re bringing to therapy. So for very obsessive people, this can be challenging. There are some tips on this page. As an ethical therapist I’ll do everything I can to help you in as short a time as possible.
NOTE: Suggestion hypnotherapy will help people with traumatic histories in the short term or with simple issues. It’s unlikely to create the transformational change needed to make lasting resilience and effortless health, happiness and success in all areas of life. It’ll be a bit like putting a sticking plaster on a broken leg.