Survive or Thrive?

Moving On From Emotional or Physical Pain into Joy

We need to decide if we want to exist, survive or thrive.

Imagine: It’s Monday morning. The week is ahead of us. Life is ahead of us. What do we choose a) pain, b) survival or c) thriving?

Pain, Fear, Anxiety, Depression, Bullying, Abuse

Pain, Fear, Anxiety, Depression, Bullying, Abuse

Thriving, living the life you want, enjoying every day, having fun, making great relationships, finding and taking opportunities

Thriving, living the life you want, enjoying every day, having fun, making great relationships, finding and taking opportunities

Surviving, getting by, going through the motions, on the treadmill, making ends meet, working to live, making do

Surviving, getting by, going through the motions, on the treadmill, making ends meet, working to live, making do

 

It will take some effort to achieve change. It may be scary asking for help. How long do you want to stay like you are though?

It will take some effort to achieve change. It may be scary asking for help. How long do you want to stay like you are though?

What do you want from life?

It’s a simple question but each of us will give a different answer. We are all different. One size doesn’t necessarily fit all.

But life’s not random either. There are patterns to how our bodies and our minds work, and how we behave. Understanding those patterns enables us to create the life we want.

 

The cream tea approach to making life better

Making life better, is different for each person but follows some predictable patterns

Making life better, is different for each person but follows some predictable patterns

Let me explain. Generally a cream tea involves a scone, jam and cream, there’s the pattern; a flexible pattern. Some people prefer to put the jam on first, others put the cream on first. Sometimes we prefer a plain scone, others, a fruit scone. Then there are those who like butter too. No one method will be right for everyone, all the time.

The same goes for making our lives better.

  • For some people a few sessions will be fine, others will want longer.
  • Some people will be able to get the change they want from working from at the conscious level (training and coaching), others will need to do subconscious work (therapy and hypnosis).
  • Improvement is often achieved with light subconscious work, sometimes we need to go deeper into more emotional change.

Am I broken?

Some psychotherapists believe that when we’re not thriving we need fixing. I don’t. I think we need to keep on learning.

We start to learn as soon as we're born. Sometimes what we learn isn't helpful. We can learn new things though.

We start to learn as soon as we’re born. Sometimes what we learn isn’t helpful. We can learn new things though.

When we’re born, usually, our brains maintain our breathing and blood-flow, our digestive system and our senses. Our learning starts from that moment onwards. We learn how to get food and warmth, coordinated movement, language, making friends, where to go to the loo. We keep learning all the way through school and every day of our lives. All of these lessons are stored in our minds and influence the way we are today.

How much is genetic?

Research shows that our environment has 10% influence on our lives (my lungs are fairly healthy because I grew up in the UK where the air quality is fairly good). Our genetics have 10% influence (I have blue eyes). The other 80% of our lives is determined by our psychology, the way we learned to be (I speak English and I learnt to overcome depression and anxiety).

Moving forward

Creating a more helpful psychology for ourselves is an individual process that follows some fairly predictable patterns. We can choose the pattern that’s best for you. Sometimes

  • the past provides the context that helps us make the change.
  • recognising and understanding today’s unhelpful beliefs helps us to make the change.
  • we need to be supported as we learn, through experience, that we can handle painful emotions and grow stronger as a result.

We can all learn to have the confidence that we’ll be able to thrive even in a difficult situation.

Thriving focuses on the present, the solution, and the future moving forward all the time; celebrates what is right and going well; emphasizes what we want, need and desire; builds resilience, empowerment and well-being. Identifies strengths, and builds empowering beliefs. Enables human understanding, personal influence and ability to achieve.

Whatever you start from, thriving is possible.

Contact Tania for Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy and the most popular, The Thrive Programme psychological training.

contact hypnotherapy watford

Free initial consultation

I know that you may have questions. I'll be happy to answer those questions for you.
Call or email to arrange a free initial consultation.
Our informal face to face chat is an opportunity to tell me a little more about you and what you want to achieve. It generally lasts about 45 minutes. This gives us a chance to meet each other and agree how we will work together.
There is no obligation and no fee.

telephone thrive watford07717 410 910

email thrive watfordhello@taniaclarke.co.uk

If I'm with a client, leave a confidential message on my answerphone or drop me an email.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Contact Tania for Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy and the most popular, The Thrive Programme psychological training.

contact hypnotherapy watford

Free initial consultation

I know that you may have questions. I'll be happy to answer those questions for you.
Call or email to arrange a free initial consultation.
Our informal face to face chat is an opportunity to tell me a little more about you and what you want to achieve. It generally lasts about 45 minutes. This gives us a chance to meet each other and agree how we will work together.
There is no obligation and no fee.

telephone thrive watford07717 410 910

email thrive watfordhello@taniaclarke.co.uk

If I'm with a client, leave a confidential message on my answerphone or drop me an email.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.